Well-meaning people will say “time heals all wounds.” I do not believe this. Tom Zuba’s states in Permission to Mourn, that time does not heal our wounds, but what we do we that time can. We must first acknowledge our sadness and realize our grief is directly related to the love we had for the person who died (at least that is the case for me). In order to begin healing our broken hearts, bodies, minds, and spirits, we must give ourselves permission to mourn. When we pretend we are okay; that our grief does not exist, that we aren’t sad, lonely, afraid (fill in the blank) we do not heal. Some things that I have found to help me actively mourn include: daily prayers, journaling, setting daily intentions, choosing gratitude, reading daily devotionals, talking to a few trusted friends, allowing myself time to cry/be sad, and talking about Richard (saying his name – sharing stories about him). Each day, I have to start anew (sometimes multiple times a day). This is not an easy journey but I want to find a way to heal my broken heart, spirit, body, and mind. I believe I will always grieve Richard’s death. I miss him like crazy and I don’t think that will ever end (nor do I really want it to). However, I look forward to the day that I can be fully present, happy, healthy, and whole.