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“A MOURNING MOMENT”

Anyone can read our written words. But it takes a very special person to “read the heart”. Often after a loss it is very difficult to find words to describe the empty feeling. It is almost impossible to describe the pain of loss in words another person can relate to.

Several years ago I was commissioned to design a sculpture for a memorial park at a hospital in Oklahoma City. After a baby dies, the name of that child is etched into a brick and placed in the memorial park. Overlooking the engraved bricks is a bronze sculpture depicting 2 adult figures, embracing, with a heart shaped hole between them.

The hole represents a heart that has been “ripped out” because of grief. Throughout my years of hearing grief stories, that is the term I have heard most to describe the pain…the heart has been “ripped out”.

I have been around some people who can “read my mind” it seems. They are normally people who know my character and personality.

As a griever, it can be comforting when someone can “read our heart”. They will know when to stay close, and when to stay away. They know when to speak, and when to remain silent. They will allow us to have freedoms to express the heart pain without judging us. They will have patience. They will “hear our heart!”

Seek that special person. Do not give up. Let them “hear your heart”. Then someday someone may seek you to “hear their heart!”…you will understand.

Bob Willis, author/sculptor