I read posts on social media where people state that they will never be okay; never heal. I know it feels like that at times; especially early in grief. But I can’t accept that I will never heal. I will always miss Richard. I will always wish he had not died at such a young age. But I am still here and I have to do everything I can to heal and be okay. It is hard work! I am very intentional about the way I deal with my grief and how I choose to mourn.
In Tom Zuba’s book: Becoming Radiant, he asked in Chapter 3: “Is Healing Possible?” I think if you choose to think it is not, then it is not. If you choose to think it is and you are willing to “do the work,” then it can be.
How do I know that I’m healing? When I find ways that I am grateful, I am healing. When I laugh, cry, and remember, I am healing. When I feel appreciative for the Fall colors, or a hot steamy cup of coffee, or a good book or movie, I am healing. When I continue to say yes when I can I’m healing. Likewise, when I say no so I can take care of myself, I am healing.
Again, this is not easy. But I’m so thankful I’ve taken this approach on this journey through grief.
If you are grieving the death of a loved one, I hope you will find ways to begin or continue to actively and intentionally mourn so that your heart will begin to heal.
Gina’s thoughts on life, death, and in between 
This . . . is . . . perfect! So many people have commented to me “I wish I could tell you that grief gets easier/better, but it doesn’t”. Hearing this, I couldn’t imagine feeling this sadness, this heart-breaking loss for the rest of my life. I am still new in my grief, but I choose to be thankful for the time Wayne and I had, thankful for the special memories we shared and thankful for these beautiful daughters that are a part of him. Someone asked, just this morning, how I was doing. My response was, “I’m good. Some moments are just better than others”. I’m going to choose to enjoy those good moments. That’s exactly what Wayne would want. ❤️
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Yes Beth! Thanks for responding. Wayne would want you to heal and be here for your girls! This grief will always be part of us! That is what it is like when some we love dearly dies! But we will incorporate it into who we are now and who we become in the future. As always, you and your girls are in my daily prayers!
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