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Be kind to yourself. Remember that you can say no and/or do things differently. Take time to rest, read, journal or whatever calms and centers you. Don’t forget that joy and grief can happen at the same time. Say your person’s name; share stories about them. Sending love and light to anyone who reads this as well as wishes for peace and love throughout this holiday season.

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“A MOURNING MOMENT”

Although the holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, good cheer, and high hopes for the New Year, many people experience seasonal “blues”. These seasonal “blues” can be caused by increased stress and fatigue, unrealistic expectations, over commercialization of holidays, and the inability to be with family members.

Of course, the death of a loved one will make the holidays extremely difficult and intensely painful. Everything changes, normal disappears. Others may want to celebrate the holidays, but it is difficult to get into the holiday mood when dealing with grief.

Here are some ideas to help with the holiday “blues”.

Keep expectations manageable

Be realistic about what you can and cannot do

Give yourself permission to feel lonely or sad at times

Volunteer to help someone less fortunate

Don’t be afraid to try something new

Spend time with people who are supportive and care about you.

Make time for yourself; be selfish, don’t spend all your time providing for family and friends

Create a peaceful place of refuge…a place you can retreat to if stress gets too heavy. Use books, music, or writing to give comfort.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is permission to care for yourself. It is an investment in yourself during the difficult grief journey.

God bless you. You are not alone.

Bob Willis, author/sculptor

“A Guide For Grievers”

“JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER”

Email Bob at rwillis14@cox.net