I often think of what Richard would say or think about things in my day to day life. I feel pretty sure I know the answer most of the time. We were very in tune to each other’s thoughts. I think that happens after years of being together.

I believe he would say: I’m proud of you Gin (pronounced Jean). He would tell me to keep doing my best to take care of myself. He would want me to be present in our girls’ lives.

What do I say to him? I tell him about my day. I talk to him about our girls. Sometimes when I visit his grave, I read whatever I’m reading at the time to him.

In one of my groups last year, we wrote letters to our person who had died. I had been doing this for awoke. Then our assignment was to write back from their perspective. It may sound a little crazy but it helped me so much. The first thing I felt he said to me was – “it’s about time you met me get a word in edge-wise 😂.” If I need to process something or just “hear” Richard, I will still do this from time to time.

What do you think your loved one would say to you? How do you continue to communicate with them?

I hope you can find ways to continue to communicate with your loved one(s) in ways that brings you peace and love.