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As many of you know, I discovered Tom Zuba soon after Richard died. I started following his fb page and read his books (both were gifts from a member – who is now a friend- of Tom’s groups). I took two online courses with Tom. I continue to read his books almost daily. I find a new message each time I read a chapter. I’ve shared his books with others who are living with the death of a loved one. I’m 100% sure that these books, Tom’s posts, the friends I’ve made through his groups and pages, and the courses I took with him changed the trajectory of my grief journey. Tom shared this today. It is true!

When someone we love dies

most of the world “moves on”

very quickly.

Very, very quickly.

For those in the center of the storm

there is no moving on.

I believe we can learn to move with.

We can move with.

We can learn to take our beloveds with us.

Remember to be gentle with you.

Be gentle.

Even when

especially when

the world is not.

Be gentle with you.

“When your life has been shattered

in millions of pieces

you need to take it slow.

So be gentle

with yourself.

Be very

very

gentle.

Rest when you must.

I firmly believe that for many of us

if we were able to take in

really take in

the enormity of what has happened to us

we would not be able to live.

Literally.

I believe our bodies would shut down.

Our minds would turn off.

Our spirits would take flight.

Our new reality is simply too much to take in all at once.

So

we take it in

little-by-little

detail-by-detail.

Over time.

Lots of time.

And in time

(lots of it)

in small doses

our new reality begins to sink in.

Someone you love

dearly

has died.

Your life has changed.

Forever.

Many of your dreams have been shattered.

And for now

the best you can do is hold on.

Hold on.

Hold on.

Hold on.”

Remember to be gentle with you.

Really

really

really gentle.

I don’t think we move on.

But I do believe we can learn

to move with.

We can bring our beloveds with us.

💛💛💛

Excerpt From Chapter 3 of Permission to Mourn.

Available at Amazon by clicking: https://www.amazon.com/Permission-Mourn-New-Way-Grief/dp/1600475655/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8