I read a lot of posts on social media about others suggesting it is time to “get over” or “move on” when someone we love has died. I’m consistently amazed that seemingly well-intentioned friends/family can be so insensitive or ignorant. I try to let the people in my circle (those that I want to remain close with) know how I feel, understand what I need, etc. I feel like this has been helpful to them and to me.

Like the reading above states, grief is not a problem to solve. People grieving don’t need others trying to fix them.

I love the model with the jars. It is accurate of my grief journey. My grief is a huge part of me but I am learning to build a life around it.

If you are new to this journey, I encourage you to give yourself permission to mourn. I also encourage you to allow tiny bits of joy to creep back into your heart. Your heart can contain both simultaneously. I encourage you to look for opportunities to be grateful whenever possible.

If you are supporting someone who is grieving, don’t try to fix them. Don’t tell them how to feel or that they should be moving on. Just be there for them.